You’ve been hanging out with this guy for weeks, maybe even months. You’re not sure how he feels towards you. You think you’re ready for more but he hasn’t brought it up just yet. Maybe he’s even avoiding the topic completely or just taking things slow.
But the thing is, if a man wants to be with you, he will do whatever it takes to have you.
One of the most overused terms when it comes down to dating is “the friend zone.” It’s amazing how many people get stuck in that mysterious zone. I’m going to share a story with you that got me out of the friend zone permanently. The term “Friend Zone” was coined in the November 3rd, 1994 episode of the American television sitcom Friends.
But above all, there’s a reason why you remained a hookup and not his girlfriend. Obviously saying, you are JUST AN OPTION.
Find out why…
1. You Enabled The Hook-Up Mentality
He is passive on his approach but you enabled his behavior. Maybe you started out as friends or met through mutual friends’ acquaintances which made you comfortable hooking up right away. Maybe you weren’t looking for more than a hookup at the time, anyway.
Since your relationship didn’t start out on a course of committing, so never expect that it’ll go on to the next level.
2 . Maybe He’s Just Not That Into You
Maybe he’s just not that into you, but “carnal knowledge” is good so he keeps on hooking up with you.
No matter the reason, if you’re looking for more, it’s time to talk about it. Get on the same page with the man who is getting your time, mind and body. Don’t let fear, comfort or selfishness keep you from getting what you ultimately need and deserve. No matter the outcome, you’ll live to love another day.
3 . You Are Quite Naive On Your Feelings
You wanted to be the traditional, cool girl because you didn’t want to pressure him. Which is quite expected for a good girl attitude and you were just having fun. But then, you started feeling things. Even then, you didn’t say anything because you were afraid to do so.
He can’t read your mind because men are numb with their feelings. Nonetheless,if you clearly express how you feel and what you want, you’ll never get it and you’ll be stuck in a cycle of unfulfilled expectations.
4 . You Ignore Those “Warning Signs” That He’s “Emotionally Unavailable”
He always going to stood up or never slept over because he always had an early day at work the next day or whatever other excuses he gave you. You never went on dates because he only communicated when he wanted to hook up.
He doesn’t share his days with you and you never got to know much about him. He only gave you enough to keep you holding on to hope,much as his own vulnerability,especially if his still on the verge of a breakup.Those are the signs of the emotionally unavailable man and you missed them.
5 . He Is Not Your Priority and You Wouldn’t Care
Hanging out and hooking up once a week or every now and then is okay with you. You are busy and he is busy too. Neither of you wanted to put any pressure on the situation or onto the emotional connection at hand.
You don’t prioritize each other and he needed more attention from you to figure out if you are worth settling down with. Now, he’s spending more time with the person who would most likely prioritize him.
So, is it clear now?